Tuesday, December 24, 2013

How to Wear a Bow Tie




Q. The only bow ties I have ever worn were black tie with formal wear, but I'm thinking of bringing them into my business wardrobe. Are the color matching rules for bow ties the same as for other ties and are there any specific don'ts with bow ties? Finally, to give you a better understanding of my thoughts, if I'm going this far, I want to do something different but not ridiculous -- I see that as bright pink, or Pulitzer. Thanks in advance for the help.

A. I am happy to report that the pendulum of style for younger men has swung back to dressing up; the mind set of grungy dressing has passed. So, I understand your new interest in incorporating this functional accessory – the bow tie – into your mode of dressing. It can be useful at work, at the club, or when you are going out with your friends. Celebrities such as Justin Timberlake, Ryan Gosling, and Ashton Kutsher have all been spotted wearing them.

To answer some of your questions: The color matching rules for bow ties are the same as for other ties, and, yes, there are a couple of don’ts. One is the same as the rule for long (four-in-hand) ties, and that is never match it exactly to anything else you are wearing, such as a pocket square or braces (suspenders). Coordinated in color and pattern, yes, but as I’ve written before: A man wearing two exactly matched items looks as if he were dressed out of a kit -- not your most sophisticated image. The second no-no is essential: Do NOT wear a pre-tied bow tie or, worse, a clip-on. Learning how to tie one yourself is really not difficult. If you can locate online my now out-of-print book, “Dress for Excellence,” you will find exact directions. If not, the Internet can be very helpful. 
         
To answer your next question about doing “something different,” I have some major concerns about going too far. Despite the fact that this past year has seen a big spurt in younger men deciding to incorporate bow ties into their wardrobes, the style is still somewhat of a departure. A well-dressed guy may enjoy being seen as an individual or a maverick, but he should definitely avoid any hint of exhibitionism. Having a signature look – say, wearing a lot of the color pink as you mentioned – works when incorporated into standard, classic items; but inserting a noticeable departure into something that is already even a slight digression verges on childish showing off. Subtlety is the essence of stylish sophistication.

There are certainly opportunities to personalize. One point of personalization is the opportunity to choose any one of five different bow tie shapes. These are offered by Beau Ties Ltd., a company I have recently learned of and am very impressed with. Beau Ties Ltd. has made a name for itself by devoting its efforts to making beautiful, well-priced ties. While in recent years, neckties have become more and more expensive, because a bow tie is such a small item, it somehow rankles to pay between $60 and $120 for one. At Beau Ties their very best ties are between $40 and $50. In fact, the company makes bow ties for many upscale stores to sell under their own label at considerably higher prices.

www.BeauTiesLtd.com offers more than 200 patterns to choose from. They are all handmade from high quality fabrics and offer many options. For weddings, they give the groom (and his groomsmen) the same service a bride has: They will send fabric swatches and match special colors. But perhaps the most unique service they offer is what they call the “conversion program”; they will convert your own long tie into a bow tie for $35. The company says they are aimed at men who are fans of Robert Frost: They want to follow a path less traveled.
             
Necktie note: For some reason, consistency in lengths of long ties does not seem to be a huge priority in the necktie industry. Ties are manufactured in lengths that range from 55 to 58 inches. If you’re tall, those three inches can make a big difference. Besides bow ties, Beau Ties Ltd. also makes long (four-in-hand) ties that can be personalized as to length. You can order a tie from their website in any one of four lengths: 58 inches (standard), 60, 62, or 64 inches. Or you can phone them at 800-488-8437, and they will cut the tie to your exact specification. There is an additional charge of $8 for non-standard lengths, and well worth it. I don’t know any other company that offers this service.
    
Ties offer an avenue to be distinctive. But the well-dressed man is always stylish without being flamboyant.   

Have questions of your own? Feel free to email me at Lois.Fenton@prodigy.net

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